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05-30-2008
Made of Honor or NOT?
Made of Honor??? Not so much!
I’m not Siskel, Ebert, Roeper, or a famous movie critic, but I might be able to save you a few bucks and your time if you read on…
I had the privilege of having some of my girlfriends visit this week. (Because I have a GREAT husband, who is also an awesome guest columnist), we were able to sneak off for the rare opportunity to catch a chic flick. One of my friends has a thing for Patrick Dempsey so she chose the movie Made of Honor. Although I knew little about it, I did know that the premise was about a boy realizing he had feelings for his best friend. I like the story line since I too married my best friend. I was also pretty much just glad to have a chance to go to the movies with my girls! What I did not expect was how bad a movie it might be. Because it is so challenging to finally carve out time and your life savings to attend a movie, it sorda feels like a kick in the gut when it’s this bad. Just because I care about you and want to save you the brutal beating my wallet and time took I will offer you the following considerations.
First of all, there is the predictable script: Boy meets girl, she is disinterested, they become best friends. (Thanks, we already saw it in My Best Friends Wedding). Boy and girl stay friends, he can’t see what is right in front of him so opts for meaningless sex. (BTW: women don’t appreciate being portrayed as mindless, immoral, objects). The girl leaves town and the boy misses her. He processes this with his buddies on the basketball court (stereotypical male bonding). The worst part of the movie (for me) was when the ‘so called’ successful group of friends shoots hoops while a supposed ‘geek’ tries desperately to be included. It was like watching high school all over again except no one grew up. They treated this guy condescendingly, rudely and in all ways like they were better than him and the audience was meant to laugh with them, at him. I kept thinking to myself how the script MUST be working in a storyline that would lead the ‘so called’ cool, successful, wealthy, handsome, guys to have some sort of conversion because of this unique individual… ummmm, sadly that does is not what happens. Throughout the movie they berated and belittled him and continued to expect the audience to laugh. We didn’t. I would have left but I kept thinking surely it would get better, I was mistaken. The girl returns from her trip and the boy plans to surprise her to profess his love, although the surprise is that she is engaged (saw it already on friends w/ Ross and Rachel). The only surprise in the movie for me was how bad it continuously got. I questioned how in the world it made it to the big screen and how innocent people were tricked into paying money towards it. Females were continuously depicted in condescending ways. An overweight girl starves herself and ends up ripping her dress (not funny), a girl who is bitter, hurt and a supposed floozy hits throws herself on the groom (not funny), a grandma who mistakes a sex toy for a necklace and a priest notices (not funny), men portrayed as uncaring, chauvinistic , egotistical women users full of rules and game playing (not funny).
I was so disturbed by the way people (all people) were treated throughout the movie in relation to human dignity. When will movie makers get that we are not impressed by innumerable sexual conquests? We are sick of seeing women portrayed as mindless, immoral bimbos, and men as uncaring, egotistical bigots. We are offended when those who might have special needs are outwardly persecuted and ridiculed. The word ‘retard’ means developmentally delayed. Please stop abusing it and using it for any other purpose than referring to our special needs community with love and compassion. The real world is hard enough, we don’t want to go to the movies to see injustice celebrated and worse, have to pay for it!
I am not in any way trying to be a moral judge, but I admit I felt completely offended watching this movie and it was not my self righteousness at work, rather I know it was my Holy Spirit! It was that indwelling which is able to discern holiness and that was grieving the dishonorable display of human dignity. How can any of us sit and watch people be cruel to one another and not feel anything, or worse yet- to laugh without sensitivity? When that happens we are in trouble. The spirit within all of us is continuously calling us to higher ground. Let’s hope someone in
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